child of divorce

[Brit]

Having gone through my own parents' messy divorce, I'm wondering if a student could be worried about making one parent mad by having to communicate with the other parent when it's not their night. At least once, I've seen signs that she's really upset about home life.

so, questions: 1) should I be concerned? I'm afraid of letting my own experiences cloud my view, so I need imput.
2) can I get involved, and if so, how, and how much involvement is appropriate?

All I can think is: this poor kid! she's only 8, so it's a lot to deal with when your parents can't act like adults to each other...speaking from experience.

[Spectre]

Sounds like a sticky wicket, huh?

I was the child of a dysfunctional home, so know it can have a profound effect on you. Looking back, I can recall very few happy, childhood memories. The sad part, is that an experience like that tends to define who you become later.:confused2:

I would urge caution for right now. Yes, by all means, be there to encourage her in any way you can, but if this breakup is as ugly as you say, one parent or both might need someone to strike out and you might be very handy. You need to protect yourself.

For certain, I would advocate not bringing the matter up with the girl, unless she does first. Even then, be careful what you say. You might mention that you had an experience like hers growing up, but that things turned out okay. Other than that, you might be sailing in uncharted water.

Don't run aground!:idontknow:

[Dhe Poet]

:idontknow:Well I so wish I had The answer everyone needs, but unless you are a personal friend I wouldn't get involved except I might mention it myself (ME). I am old school in so many ways and yet I too come from a split home and I went to Catholic school so I thought it was supposed to feel weird.:laugh::laugh:
These days I have to tune out my mom-in-law for since she divorced she wants to give all of her girlfriends bad advice!
Marriage is supposed to last for forever and I told my wife long ago if ours didn't that it would be my fault and that she would deserve the children and all we have.
SORRY!!:idontknow: NO ADVICE