help - home and school life major clash!

[lily23]

hi

i am hoping that someone can give me some advice because i really don't know what to do!

This september i started as a drama teacher at my local school. The problem is that i have two daughters aged 14 and 16 who attend the school and there are major clashes between home and school.

My eldest is quite happy to just avoid me at school and get on with her education, but my youngest is angry that i took the job and even more so that i have to teach her drama because i am the only drama teacher at the school. She has started acting up at school both in my class and others and her attendance has been becoming poor. I have tried talking to her and she has been given detentions by many of her other teachers but she doesn't seem to care. The last two weeks i have been driving her to school to ensure that she turns up and checking that she has arrived at each lesson but she just seems to be getting futher into the wrong crowd.

She is acting so immature but i really want to be able to treat her as an adult. However, i really need help to be able to cope with this behaviour! PLEASE HELP ME, I'M GETTING DESPERATE! if this continues i'm going to have to look for another job to save my daughters education.

thank you
Lily

[iteachsocialstudies]

I don't know anything about this, but I just want to point out: she's not acting like an adult, why does she get to be treated like one? Maybe you could point that out to her. Legally speaking, you're still in control of her as her mother and her teacher.

Again, much wiser people can give you better advice, I'm sure.

[lily23]

Thanks for the advice. I did point out to her that she shouldnt be treated like an adult and told her that i would start treating her like a child if she didnt get her act together. Unfortunately, she thought i was bluffing and so i have had to resort to escorting her to each lesson and constantly asking if she was ok. In my lesson i also treated her like she was much younger and after 2 days of this, she seems to have got the message!

I have also made appointments for her to speak to the school psychologist to check there are no other issues.

Thank you so much, hopefully this is over now!

Lily

[javamomma]

I am glad that this is going to work out for you.

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